Serendipity

It's one of the oldest stories in the world you know...you're young and planning the rest of your life; your someday. Then next thing you know, quietly, without ever noticing because you're too busy with life, your someday is today, then yesterday. Then your best days are behind you. And the person you wanted is with someone who deserves them...

ser·en·dip·i·ty

   /ˌsɛrənˈdɪpɪti/ Show Spelled[ser-uhn-dip-i-tee]  Noun

1. an aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident.

2. good fortune; luck: the serendipity of getting the first job she applied for.

3. Serendipity means a "happy accident" or "pleasant surprise"; specifically, the accident of finding something good or useful while not specifically searching for it.

Serendipity, a word that I have become oh so familiar with in the last couple of months. Come to look back, it's been in my life all along, especially these last couple of years. Everyday for me had serendipity, a happy accident, a pleasant surprise. Meeting new people all around the world and traveling to the most exotic places. Coming home was always a little bitter-sweet. Then you meet someone when you least expect it and they change your whole world.

I'll be the first to admit that after my last relationship, I was in no hurry to get back in another relationship. I wanted to be selfish with my time and make the most of my youth while it still loomed. As I have written so many times before, you meet people at certain times in your life because you need them to teach you something and you need them to move on to your next stage in life, your next destination maybe. What we need to understand about other people is that they are different than we are, and we need to give them time to show us and tell us what they want and need. Everyone has a story to explain the way they are, and that story is never revealed right away. It may take months, years, or even a lifetime.

We are the way we are because of past life experiences. To give someone a chance means that you mustn't make rash decisions about who they are just by knowing what you know, then writing them off. We all gain knowledge through trials and tribulations. Sometimes we fail and we pick up every piece and get back on our feet, and sometimes we are forever marked by our mistakes, but learn for next time.

Give people time to tell you their stories fully before you let them go. If you don't give them a chance to talk, then you might never know why they are the way they are. Your assumptions will most likely turn into uncertainty and then become the "what could have been." Then one day, when you realize that you might have made a mistake letting them go prematurely, they will have found that person that took the time to listen and didn't judge them on their every word.

Knowing everything about a person isn't fun when establishing a friendship or a relationship. Keep some things a mystery and I promise you that person will never cease to amaze you!